I think, I feel, I care

A lil piece which struck me during the day...nothing serious or anything..just but do read and comment

I lean back in my chair near the window; eyes closed listening to the fury of the rains. She like a mum to mother Earth pelts hard and fast with a vengeance, an indecorous bitter vengeance for bearing the trysts of the torts and injust silently. She lashes out her rage with no mercy, not even when she hears the skies roar in grief felt for Earth. Not for a sixtieth of a second does she rest, atleast not before she glances upon the Earth a couple of times with her sparkling eyes. For then she begins to wail, wail at her own misdeed and lets out a soul-piercing howl through the tiny crack in my window when the vicarious nature of her act fully descends upon her.

ENOUGH. I can tolerate no more. I stand pressed against the window letting the one warm tear run down my cheek hoping and praying for a remedy. I turn slowly to face the world outside questioning the silence to see her brother embracing her and sending his troubled exhausted sister in his cushioned chariot as he proceeds to smile wistfully clearing up the chaos caused by his sister’s wrath with warmth giving the Earth a second chance.

A second chance with hope

A second chance not to be missed.

Please.

zats it? howzat?

I don’t believe in tarot cards
I don’t believe in talking parrots
I don’t believe in crystal balls
I don’t believe in omens
I don’t believe in astrology
I don’t believe in fate and destiny

I believe in.. Myself and the Lord.

It’s a simple equation, I put in my inputs, try to format the environment the way feasible to me at the same time not harming anyone else and leave the rest to the lord. What job would he have if I do everything myself? Lol..just joking. My capabilities are extremely limited and perfection is a distant possibility. Thus with the lord’s help, guidance and grace I should be able to do everything I wish to. Fate and destiny, some may say are tools of the lord. I believe in the supreme, not the subordinates. Who better than the supreme? If he wills, who can stop it?

For those who do believe in astrology, fate and destiny I am not sorry to say that I don’t believe in it. Please note I am in no way discouraging your beliefs, they are yours. You may do as you please with them. I don’t believe in then and I have my reasons which I don’t mind sharing with you. I am not cooking up stories to prove my point. I have no need to. Before coming to the reasons I have just one question, how in the seven heavens will you know that the astrologer you are consulting actually has accurate and good knowledge of the subject with the capacity to predict the events? One thing which many of us have heard is that many a time, the same birth chart taken to different astrologers gives you different fortunes. So tell me, have my fate and destiny changed or are they false or which one of the astrologers is true?

Coming to the reasons, so far almost everything predicted by astrologers as per the birth charts of my family.. not much has come true. For example, my parents were predicted to part soon after their marriage. Touch wood, they will with god’s grace celebrate their 25th wedding anniversary next year. So, the soon isn’t here yet eh? Next. One of these “famed” astrologers predicted my mother shall never bear children and its advisable for my dad to remarry if he wishes to father children. Fine. So exactly what are my brother and I ? Monkeys? ( our behaviour might resemble that of monkeys- thats just coz we value our ancestry, take pride in it and follow their foot..uh sorry..pawsteps ) these two reasons dominate my say mostly coz of their direct relation to me.

Apart from these reasons there happens to be 3 main reasons why I happen to dislike the concept of believing in all the above. One- haven’t you noticed that the moment someone tells them their future, when they will die, in which field they will do well, the gender of kids etc etc, they start planning accordingly!! For earth’s sake get a grip!! It’s a game of the mind played by the astrologers. You start believing them to be true, then take steps in the same direction and finally declare the astrologer’s predictions to be true. Right. Eh? EXCUSE ME?? How are you to know what you may have been had you not followed the astrologer’s say? How do you know? How? Secondly, in close relation to the first point, are you telling me that you are willing to place more trust, belief and confidence on a third party than on yourself??? I am not sorry at all to say I , for one cant ever imagine myself doing that unless its upon the supreme lord. Him, I believe. Him, I trust. After all, those who are solely authorized to dictate my life happen to be the lord and myself. I don’t see any space for any third person to tell me what I will become. Tell me what I can become, I might consider. Tell me what or whom I’ll become, sorry outta my way mister! Lastly, if at all these predictions are true, then what is the point in living? To see if they are true or not? I mean for a hard core believer, his life is an open closed book even before he turns the pages! Where, I fail to understand does the thrill of living life, come in when you know what will happen. Where? Plus isn’t the beauty of life the very fact that every aspect of it is filled with uncertainities which upon a lil manipulation by way of our behavior and god’s grace make it the way we live it?

I am sorry. I do realize that many a person’s sentiments would have been hurted here. This, is merely my opinion. My belief or more like lack of belief. Each person here on the phase of earth and even those in outer space are allowed their opinion and this happens to be mine. I am truly sorry if I have hurted any sentiments. That was not my intention.

Honestly, this is another topic which gets my blood boiling.. why is it that when half the population screams about not having a place in the global world, the other half-no make that 30% of the others kiss the foreigners feet (not literally dahlings..)? you see them everywhere.. the tourist guides, the shop keepers, the auto rickshaw vallas.. the moment they see a foreigner, we, Indians, their brothers and sisters (according to the Indian Pledge, yes) instantly lose our importance. Why is it so? They very well treated us as slaves, misused our resources and gave us freedom when we could have by all means prevented it!! You call this hospitality is it? Pushing down ur fellow citizens and keeping the foreigners atop ur heads? ****(upto u to fill in the swear word ) Tell me one reason y these people do it? Ofcourse, u poor souls who seem to have become a victim of my blabber and vents, what can u say? I as of now am unable to see any reason except for the fixation in many Indian minds that anything foreign is better than Indian. Its really disgusting. Honestly is. Something more unfortunate is that because of these 30% the remaining 70% don’t receive the respect they so deserve.What do we get? Many a time a degrading look or a sarcastic smile. (I am not referring to all foreigners but quite a few sadly) If you think this stops with just the previous generation, think again.. its ongoing because the foreign idolization doesn’t stop right here right now. Unless a couple of us youngsters speak up, throw away these pffed beliefs, we cant do a thing in a world.. fortunately, a couple of people have already started to dismiss the myth that India is just a nation with an ever-growing population, snake charmers, architectural and cultural beauty. Ofcourse, they have also started to support the fact that WE,the INDIANS, are capable of much more hardwork and skilled labour and don’t stop at craftsmanship and jobs at call centers. This I’m proud of this and hope that we will uphold the name of our nation and fly high on the waves of success..

This does not mean im against foreigners and the countries apart from India (how can I when Ive lived upto 10years of my life outside India?) Please do go ahead, go up the career ladder, all I plead is don’t give up ur Indian citizenship. India is a beautiful country and be proud to be a part of it. Look at Mr.Mittal. I admire him for his commercial and industrial sector successes but my respect and admiration for him multiplied ten folds when I heard that he, inspite of living outside India for several years still holds an Indian passport and is proud of his nationality.Being Indian and claiming it with pride didn’t stop his success. That’s what I think we, the youngsters and elders alike should do. Want to go study abroad, go ahead, come back and help ur own nation. As far as ive noticed, the probability of brain drain isn’t distant. I understand that we are not national patriots to give up our career for the nation. Don’t. I wouldn’t. instead the least which we can do is make sure that we uphold our nation’s name in a foreign country.

Which brings me to the point which my father told me- “India is growing at such a fast pace that going outside India would mean being cut off from not only our motherland but the growth aswell” If you are wondering how I can remember a statement made by my father so clearly, that’s because that was the reason he gave me when we were to shift to India for good two years ago. Then, I understood but was still bit upset about moving countries for the fifth time in my life. But now, I tell thanks to my dad every alternate day for bringing me here. Where I belong. Where I can be of use, to not just myself and my family but perhaps the entire nation’s development. Maybe I may not achieve something great and extra-ordinary but I will still be happy to think that, hey! Ive made my little contribution to the nation’s development. And that for now will suffice

This post addresses something I feel deeply about and think deserves a lot of attention..Its about my view onprejudice and its connection with the concept of modernity. Note- I may sound a bit brutal and blatant in between so if ur not upto it.. better don’t read.

Modern- a term loosely used especially when a person says “he or she is modern” they generally intend to say that that person is futuristic.

Accepted.

What has me pissed off is the attatched notion that a person has to dress western to be modern! KNOCK KNOCK! WE, the Indians were faaaaaaar more modern than any other nation in the world a couple of centuries ago however, our simplicity and others smartness took over and they started to project our ideas as theirs and many youngsters (note- I said many , not all) seem to think being western or following the western lifestyle is to be modern. Somehow, it does not strike these poor souls that being modern is a way of thinking and action, not in terms of dressing. Sigh, do I pity these souls or wat?

Check it out, when a girl wears western wear (I may sound a bit too brutal and rude so if u don’t like it, id advise u to skip ahead, but once again im referring to a few and not all) showing off whatever they can at the same time argue they are wearing clothes, she is considered to be modern. Tell me one thing, oh great girls who fall under this category, if u do want to flaunt ur body then y the bloody hell do u care if haf ur bak and three-fourth of ur cleavage is seen by others when ur either sitting on a bike or bending down? To me atleast, it does not make sense. The worst part is, that many of these girls do really bother about what a person is going to say about them but however continue to do so just coz maybe someone might think of her to be cool. Pathetic. Try probing into their minds and the real them and u wud by all means be shocked. I believe that hardly one-tenth of those who fall under this category are gutsy enough to carry themselves off well and tell the world whom they really are and that they are proud of being so and that this 10% of these girls would actually have picked up western wear and western ways on their own, believing themselves and trusting the ways. I applaud them. I really do. In simpler words, 90% of the girls who walk around in western wear do it coz everyone else does not coz they really want to. These, I pity. True, maybe later they genuinely like it and hence wear it but most of the time, the beginning is always to fit into the crowd.

What angers me the most about this general concept of western wear = modern is the prejudice created by many against those who wear their traditional and ethnic clothes. These girls are many a time considered to be uptight, conservative, traditional, orthodox and basically everything which can be termed the opposite of modern. If u are wondering how I can so confidently accuse certain people of this sort of prejudice. Its because, I myself have been subject to such prejudice. That’s what really made me realize that many others may be facing the same situation. I dress Indian. Reason? Im proud of being Indian and have decided that it’s the least I, as an individual can do to represent my nation. Of course the fact that I feel I look better in ethnic does help matters . Many of those who know me would have by now figured that I could be named as an example of “appearances can be deceiving”. Dressing Indian does not make me an orthodox, backward, conservative girl. Nopey! I infact am against certain rituals and sentiments. Its really sad that people go against these girls and many a time not even strike a conversation with them thinking them to be the type they don’t want to be seen with. What if? What if the purely artificial image of them being modern breaks down coz they were seen with someone who was wearing ethnic when it wasn’t a festival or ethnic day? AILA!! God forbid such a situation arises. DISGUSTING! Be your own person and be proud of it. Please, Please pretty please with sugar on top DO NOT decide (prejudice) a person before u know anything about them, before u speak to them. Try speaking to them, no harm done. Infact, they just may be whom u were looking for.

If ur still here, I thank you. And I apologise if u thought that maybe iv been a bit too brutal and hurt a few sentiments. This is something I’ve been wanting to voice for ages and have finally done so. Thank you.

This blog deals with the usage of public roadsides and compounds as urinals..disgusting topic i know but please do read on.. u wud never believe the best excuse iv heard- "I'm being of national service, providing natural manure for the plants" YUCK!! Thank u MR.X but i think our plants are doing fine without ur manure.

My brother and I used the terms “Yuck!” “Gros!” “disgusting” and so on and so forth anytime our parents ask us to go out (a couple of years ago that is )

Reason?

We were and are still disgusted about the ways the Indian roadsides and building compounds were being used. Still don’t get it? Read on..

Public urinals (and at times toilets as well) that’s what the roadsides and building compounds have become in India. I’m so disgusted with this topic that no words are coming out.. Nothing at all.. very strange, very severe u would notice if u have checked the lengths of my previous posts. I don’t understand why people have to do so? Have u got an itsy bitsy bit of shame? (u isn’t u here, those people are referred to here and henceforth till further notice).Apparently not. Is that one rupee u spend for using the real public washrooms (I hate to use the word toilets) a huge expenditure? What can u do with that one rupee? Perhaps, buy a cigarette or bidi and puff urself away to death. That’s what u can do with the one rupee u save isn’t it? And if u question that it’s a case of emergency, pray tell me if u knew that ud be out for long, y don’t u use the loo in ur own place before u left or before leaving the last place u were at? Please don’t tell me that the last place u were at didn’t have a loo?! PUHLEEZE!! I aint so dumb as to believe that,

(Henceforth, you shall be used to address you and not those people)

The usual complaint - Public urinals are stinky. May I ask one question to those who use the roads and compounds and other public places as washrooms? Assuming u said yes, I shall continue. Even if You said no, I never promised not to continue Coming back to the question, Is it alright if the entire nation stinks like a public urinal? That’s fine eh? Imagine, every place u go to stinks like a public washroom? Maybe, then there wud be a mass suicide event. Maybe then they would learn a lesson.Wait a sec, there would be no-one to learn the lesson right? Hmm.. wat to do now?? Any alternate solution???

Voila!!! An ingenious solution!!! USE PUBLIC WASHROOMS AS WASHROOMS AND NOT OTHER PUBLIC PLACES!!

Note- For those who already do the above, CONGRATS!! Please do advise everyone u know about it too. Thanks!!

Still here? Im amazed but THANK YOU! please do post ur comments.

Reservations reservations.. god! Please give me a break.. many people who have nothing but the brief outline about it keep on ranting about it!! Understood that its illogical infact, if u ask me then id say that the real people who need reservations would be those below poverty line!! Not those who are SC/ST etc etc coz as far as ive seen they are as good or even better off than the general merit ones!! Y doesn’t the govt introduce reservations for those who are below poverty line? Isn’t it more sensible? Wudnt it also increase the literacy rate of India? And please my honourable smart government tell me aren’t u taking away the rights of equality from those who don’t belong to SC/ST? aren’t we students too? Don’t we study the same subjects? Done we too slog our butts off, get dark circles, live on tea or coffee for months and get the marks? Is it just me or is the govt blind to all this and the fact that brains and the will to study depend purely on the person and not any caste??!! Im much too disgusted with the stupidity of the government to say nemore.. I have made my point.. I generally like to take things in my own hands, in the hands of citizens but here nothing can be done.. if u are suggesting lets go out in the streets and scream ourselves hoarse, put up banners etc etc trust me as far as iv noticed only power=political power wins here, all ur effort wud only result in financial, emotional and physical strain. Sad, sad, I wish someone wud pass on this idea to the govt if they known neone influential. I know none or wud have done it looong ago plus wen u have parents guarding u as though ur the worlds most precious gem and every persons out to steal u away, its kinda difficult to come out in the open and hence I resort to my only means- my blog. I don’t want name and fame. I just want this thing which I believe is for the greater good to happen. Please anyone who does know influential ppl do pass it on even if u want to pupport it as ur own I don’t mind, just get it done please! This I plead not for myself but those with brains and the will to study but cant afford it and for those who rightfully deserve their merit seats but have to empty their parents pockets coz SC/ST students have applied in general merit. Please.

Just one small question.. y is that the murdered person always gets pity? I understand its horrendous getting murdered but why do most people automatically blev tht the murdered is innocent? Y? u don’t know both sides of the story nd u never will.. u cant judge without hearing both sides of the story. The most recent case being the orkut case (sorry im pathetic wen it comes to remembering names J ) immediately communities have been set up “Justice for XYZ” blah blah blah.. for heavens sake!! Get a grip!! Please u great people who blev these people are to be protected and hoisted to great glory tell me do u know wat happened within the closed doors of the hotel room and u tell me my dahlings y wud any sane girl want to meet her friend or boyfriend or whatever he was to her in a hotel room..k maybe they wanted some “private time” but its still a dumb thing to do.. very dumb in my opinion. “she trusted him” comes the retort in tht annoyingly irritated squeaky voice.. good point, that I don’t have a retort to but wait.. maybe I do.. god maybe this is wat amma says (“look at her shoot her mouth off, “sandakozhi!” –for those who don’t know tamil it means fighting cock-in this case hen ) she trusted him. Did she trust him more than she trusted herself?Please for heavens sake do leave ur address and foto and other details as a comment if u say yes to the question posed so that I can personally come and give u a slap and ask u to come bak to reality!! Everyone knows that everyone has got a lil voice in them wich warns them, sometimes gives company wen ur lonely, puts in a few arguments in ur internal conflicts etc etc.. are u telling me that this lady whatever her name was (something with K and ending with A I rem) did not have this voice warning her? Ofcourse it would have, she chose to ignore it. And she paid the price.. I may be extremely brutal but here goes my judgement- A LADY WHO DECIDES TO BE STUPID AND HENCE GETS MURDERED DOES NOT DESERVE ANY PITY OR NETHING! Im open for argument about this. So shoot!!

Crime done, accused caught.. has to be sentenced..the whole nation awakens and screams “DEATH SENTENCE” once I again I don’t agree (boy!! Wat do I agree to? Umm.. maybe that icecreams are mood lifters anyday anytime! ) by issuing a death sentence, wat are u doing? Merely taking away his life. No I’m not asking you to let him free, but whats the point in taking his life away? Hes not going to regret it, he wont be alive to do so. Let me take this opportunity to ask, oh honourable and esteemed judge by taking away the “accused’s” life aren’t u doing the same thing he did? Taking away a persons life? Just because his act was brutal doesn’t make him any less a homo sapien! Zee next option- “LIFE IMPRISONMENT” yahoo!! Now we know two punishments!! Do u those who think this is the next best alternative think that he wud really repent it? Nope. The innocent will repent, not these people. These people would simply be bored. Lifeless. Existing. No emotions. And emotions include regret. Then whats the entire point of punishment? So that he doesn’t go about hurting anyone else? For that one motive, the government in willing to spend on his food and accommodation for his entire lifetime? Lol.. hilarious.. k..don’t get me wrong. He deserves to be punished, something that would make him repent. Now, what I can suggest would be expensive but maybe worth a try.. wen the govt are investigating the culprit and the situation, maybe delving into the mind, the inner person mite give an insight to wat would make him repent.. I understand its not possible but as of now, all I care for is that the corrupt really do repent and the full details of the case are given to the public untouched.. geez.. maybe wat they say is right.. I do keep high hopes

Welcome to the world of instant stuff- instant coffee, instant foodstuffs, instant results after online tests. Name anything and it is most probably instant or on the verge of being instant. Perhaps, traffic in Bangalore is one thing which isn’t instant nor on the verge of being instant. Then why not instant kids??

By instant kids I refer cruelly to orphans. These innocent darlings, left behind by their parents for reasons unknown are generally subjected to either pity or contempt.

It hurts me to know that several couples who don’t have children go for highly complicated and expensive methods to get one. I completely understand their desire to have a child of their own, to call their own. But is it necessary for the child to have your genes to be called yours? In my opinion, the child becomes yours only when he/she is proud to call you his/her parent and willingly accepts you. Many of us would perhaps accept the view as crude as it may initially sound on the ears after a reasonable amount of thought and introspection. You become the child’s real parent not only because the child has your genes but because you have become a happy, integral and important part of the child’s life. Everything you do affects your child. Your thought, your speech, your action, your behavior shapes your child to a far extent. This influence you have on the child is what you could call parenting. So, when parenting is what you want to do how does it matter whether the child has your genes or not? If all you want is a child, then what is wrong with adopting one? Adopting one doesn’t stop you from having children of your own. Love is something which multiplies n-times the amount you give. Then why cant you share it with these children? Love isn’t materialistic. You don’t need to bestow costly gifts on these children, your love and affection is all these kids want and have every right to. It is beyond my understanding why, in all countries whether developed or developing there is a sense of hesitation, a sense of apprehension before adopting. Yet why is it that even after years of futile treatment and numerous attempts, there are still people who feel uneasy when the possibility of adoption stikes them and quickly dismiss the thought until they are desperate to raise a child. Why?? Don’t all children deserve and need love? What crime did these little angels do? Nothing, nothing at all yet they are punished. Throughout life, they are titled orphans and for some unknown reason, are showered with an unhealthy amount of pity that could possibly lead to the development of an inferiority complex or a feel of being unique or unusual in the negative sense. These kids deserve as much love, attention and care and everything else as we do. These kids are not those without parents. They do have parents. It is just that they aren’t around for reason unknown.

The simple act of smiling, talking, giving them a hug, letting them know they have someone to depend on doesn’t cost you one bit but brightens their day, their future.

Go ahead. Its your chance to make a difference.

Make it.

Many people stand up for women emancipation and welfare with much passion, vigour and dedication. Those who belong to this category, I applaud.

However I beg to differ with some people’s views. A lot does go around about dowry cases, rapes and several cruelties against women. These, I agree have to be curtailed. Nothing wrong about it at all, I don’t think of it as cruelties against women, I consider it to be injustice and injustice has to be curtailed and rectified. What I don’t like about this whole thing is the way some specimens of the females species of Homo sapiens misuse it. Many of these ladies who happen to be victims do misunderstand the word emancipation. Emancipation does not refer to being able to walk around provocatively! All people are still instilled with the primary desires! Many activists would definitely be up on their toes yelling “don’t women have the right to speak and dress and behave as they please?” Yes please! They do. Definitely. It’s a basic right. However, if one has to enjoy rights, they must be willing to face and carry out the respective duties as well for duties and rights are two sides of the same coin. (Unbiased one ) Every girl, woman has the right to dress, speak and behave in a manner she likes but has to follow the norms of society. If you don’t follow the norms of society, then you would be in trouble. This may sound backward, conservative or pessimistic to many. These problems are subject to region. What may be considered obscene in India may not be so outside India and what may be considered common in India like the sari, may seem fascinating to foreigners. Likewise, India is a highly diversified nation with different cultures and traditions each specific to a particular region. Hence, the same is to be considered while commenting on these cases. Plus one VERY IMPORTANT point which people may prefer to overlook would be the fact that we, the Indians are not as forward as we claim ourselves to be. Outwardly yes. We (a part of the population) may be considered forward but many of us (the majority of the population) do still think in conservative terms yet like to portray ourselves to be progressive. Sad, I know. But this has to be kept in mind. Things won’t change over night. It would take a long time but headstrong activists are definitely speeding up the process and to them, I salute. This is just a little reminder to them that let them stand up for women but at the same time curb the misuse of the facilities provided for their emancipation. Reduced taxes? Guess what my dear? Many men get their properties registered under their respective wife’s name and then whoosh! The disappearing act of the wife, of course after a power of attorney has been taken.

Coming to dowry cases- why in the seven heavens do you, the woman accept to get married to a fellow who asks for dowry? If you are defending your guy saying its his family and not him who is demanding for dowry, then please tell me do you think a fellow who doesn’t have the guts or the willingness(as the case may be) to speak up for justice to his own family members will be happy and keep you happy? Ever thought why is dowry taken? As a down payment for the girl’s maintenance? Yeah right! A girl with hopes filling her dreams, leaving behind what she considered her home, her family to start afresh, to take up your family, your home as hers, serves your parents, adopts your family as hers, your friends as hers and adjusts to all your demands has to pay to get you? Why should the girl’s family pay dowry and give away someone whom they have brought up with so much care and love? Any girl who agrees to the condition of dowry, I pity your low self esteem. Don’t you realize that they are in fact assessing your worth in monetary terms and no human can be equated monetarily? Shame. Coming to those “men” who support dowry (yes, keeping quiet when your family asks for dowry is considered supporting) do you really love your to-be wife? If you did, you wouldn’t feel her to be a burden and ask for her maintenance fees decently renamed “dowry”, that-mind you, reduces the woman from the status of a woman to that of a thing. AND THAT NO PERSON, MALE OR FEMALE DESERVES!

Female foeticide, aah.. Another subjective case. Have you my dear activists ever tried going through the emotions of the couple? Or have you directly decided that they didn’t want the child because it was a girl? Do you realize it’s possible that many of the couples who do go in for this do so not because they don’t want the child (then the gender wouldn’t matter) but because of the troubles it would have to go through by being born to them because the parents aren’t wealthy enough to support her expenses. Accept it. Bringing up a girl is definitely more expensive than that of a boy’s upbringing. This I speak from the side of the poor. If you still feel that a female child deserves the right to be born, even if it’s in a poor family, why don’t you realize that that would only lead to further problems for the child? Like malnutrition, repeated abuse, possible lack of education and most probably would end up suicide or be a victim of dowry death? Is that required? Does the girl need to be born in a family which truly and really can’t support her and keep her happy be born and suffer the trials and tribulations of life and then give it up at the end of it all? I don’t believe so. However if the girl is the first child of even a poor family, by all means let the princess be born and let the girl’s parents exercise self-restraint if they aren’t financially sound enough to take care of another child apart from the girl. What say? And coming to the cases of the wealthy, I support you. Go head on and take action, I will be there supporting you (provided you tell me when and where )

Domestic physical and emotional abuse- this time I am all with the activists. The women who become the pillar of the family, the person who becomes the sun of the solar system of the family definitely deserves to be treated well. However I have observed that many cases of misuse generally refer to this offense. Physical abuse can be proved but what about the emotional abuse? WE have nothing but the woman’s statement as proof. True, many a times that’s fine but what about a few female devils who report falsely just to get revenge? No I am not speaking about TV serials, it really happens. Or where in all reality, the woman herself was the tormentor or where she had lost her mind genuinely and was treated with love and affection but her insanity was identified only after her falsely or in a spurt of insanity reporting emotional abuse? Then wouldn’t the guy and his family be punished unnecessarily? People of all kinds exist and we have to remember that.

Just one more thing I find extremely sad is that in many cases, men are put down thinking that would uplift the status of women. Wrong!! We are people too!! Just a different gender. Apart from that difference, there is not much of a difference between males and females. That’s why you find some men “girly” and some women “manly”. Speaking of which, I think it’s unfortunate that some ladies feel emancipated when they use rough words or wearing men’s clothes (I’m sure the unisex garment manufacturers aren’t complaining!!) Be a lady. It’s a privilege.You don’t need to use rough or swear words to feel uplifted. You are infact mimicking man and that’s not upliftment!! Emancipation is from within you- the woman. Your honor, your privilege, your respect,your confidence. Its about you. Not about how well you fare with regard to men.

Go girl. in you lies power you know not.
Explore yourself,Love yourself and the world shall love you.

As a child,
Bun with tea is nice,
Mama’s cooing is joy
And dependence makes no difference.
As a child,
LIFE’S A FAIRYTALE.

As an adult,
Everything changes.
Its no longer bun with tea
But peace which is nice
Mama’a cooing becomes a
Silent prod of incompetence.
And independence is essential.
As an adult
LIFE’S A BATTLEGROUND

Have I changed? Or
Have circumstances changed?
Whatever it may be,
The difference has, is and will be.

I’M SORRY

How I feel,
What I know,
Makes no sense,
When I’m with you

I don’t understand,
Nor do I try.
I waited for you
Believing you to be true

Before you came,
Life was complete.
Now, you are gone,
And life’s more than complete,
It’s over.

I fear to do what is right,
I fear to fall in love,
But I know I’d have to.
I’M SORRY

A couple of questions to which i have no answers though i wish i had..

Y?

Y are there so many people grumbling about the lack of or slow progress in fixing social problems but just not going ahead and start fixing it themselves?

Y cant people appreciate people for whom they really are?

Y is it that when a guy is independent, he is termed confident of himself and labeled a good boy whereas when the girl is independent its termed arrogance?

Y is a girl who takes special care of her dressing immediately considered a bimbo- no brains at all and one not interested in studies?

Y is it that parents from the time of your birth try to make u independent and when you really are independent or proclaim ur wish to be so, they throw dramatic hungamas which wud be equal to none?

Y do people hesitate to compliment and accuse people at their faces?

Y do people hesitate to clear any arguments by simply going and asking the person directly involved?

Y do people not bother to take action in their own hands for things they can help?

Y don’t people understand that it’s the small things that make a huge difference?

Y does society (the people) spread rumours which are potentially capable of ruining a persons life?

Y cant people follow a policy of grow and let grow?

Y do parents more than students become more competitive when it comes to academics?

Y are people who are humble treaded upon and when they raise to remind people of their true worth termed arrogant?

Y do many people use words for which they have no clue of the meaning?

Y is a person who raises his/her voice against general public opinion referred to one who is jobless and getting themselves into trouble?

Y are the negatives faster absorbed than the positives?

Y do people expect others to behave with them in a way in which they themselves don’t behave to others?

Y do people tend to percieve things the way which would be most beneficiary to them?

Y cant people just be frank and honest?

Y cant people take others to be their own? (Please read my post on adoption titled INSTANT KIDS to fully understand the intensity of this question)

Y are people who don’t succeed academically immediately termed as losers?

Y is that when in trouble we call out to our mothers and when relieved call out to our fathers?

Y do the protagonists of movies always get a happily ever after at the end of the movie?

Y do people love ice cream and chocolates?

Y are there so many unanswered questions?

Y?

Is it my fault to notice these things or is it my fault to voice them or is the fault with the people or is there no fault at all?

Y? oh y? please do tell me..