It hurts.
It frustrates.
I know it.
You know it.
All of us know it.
Yet, yet, YET all of us do it.
In a fit of hysterical fury, we all blindly accuse the person in front of us without ever listening to their side of the story. And those few who do listen, don’t bother thinking about it from the other person’s point of view. Nope. Just doesn’t seem to work that way.
And you know what?
It just SUCKS.
I suppose you do know that:p
I have often heard several hot headed people say- “I didn’t get mad!! I was provoked!!”
Err? Right.
I really do(nt) understand the difference.
When I think of it, a couple of lines pop into my mind and sadly I’m unable to recollect the person(s) to whom it belongs. It runs along the lines of “ no one can control your emotions like you can and no one can make your day a bad one unless you let them.” Its completely possible that they are two completely different statements made by different people but I do feel that they deserve to go hand in hand. And I , for one am in complete acceptance of the two lines. If we don’t control our emotions, no one can because they are more or less the only thing which is solely and completely owned and controlled by us. No matter what anyone says or does, our reaction is always in our hands. Most of the times if not all, our reactions are involuntary or immediate. Its only a blessed few of the world’s population who are capable of slow rational reaction to what happened. These I suppose could be called the real followers of the lines.
I for one, tried following the lines and to an extent, yeah I can claim I have managed but to a larger extent I have failed. Perhaps, I need more practice. Its difficult though. But still, the few times I did manage not to let anyone else (or anything else for that matter) dictate my awfully swinging moods, the result was way better than brilliant and more than sufficient motivation for me to carry on the practice.
But…
Aah.. just like me, to find a but to most situations…
But.. I had this feeling that maybe the actual practice of these lines actually led to an empty life- one devoid of emotion; good and bad and I figured I didn’t quite like it though it got me out of trouble.
Felt like existence and most probably was.
Then I realized. Most probably the person who stated those lines was referring to only those emotions which are considered negative like anger, fury, rage, jealousy, inferiority complex etc. And hey!! It works out brilliant like that. think out your fury- once you have cooled your heels that is
and laugh out your joy immediately. Who cares if you make a fool of yourself? It’s all a part of the game of life and oooh!! Its big time fun making a fool of yourself in public, trust me it seriously is. I do it- on a regular basis you could say 
Once I adopted the above rationale, things turned out looking brighter, even if they are worse.
Maybe you should try it too.
Oh yeah! There is one more thing I have heard. A person I know often has a habit of expressing herself on spot. Nope- if you think she forgets it soon afterwards, you are terribly mistaken to say the least. She remembers. Every bit- well, at least every bit which is favourable to her. This particular habit of hers, gets her a rotten tag of a hot headed person even though she is a pretty nice person. It hurts her loads when some one calls her hot headed. Her argument- “why do all of you call me hot headed? Why don’t you understand why I get angry? What is the reason behind my anger?”
EXCUSE ME MA’AM?!
Things don’t work that way for anyone- not for the King, nor for the Queen nor for any measly peasant.
All of us can take her example.
The reason?
Most of us are like her. We wish to be understood. Not understand.
Try understanding.
Things would be different.
Very different.
That too for the better.
You know it.
I know it.
All of us know it.
Now, lets please please please put it into practice!